...Which house to spend the holidays at?
When the holidays roll around, couples everywhere are left to decide who they will be heading to to spend the days: Do they go to their in-laws? Their own parents? Neither? Or do they try to host? Gah! It's a lot to think about.
There's that intense worry about making someone unhappy: your parents, his parents, grandma, uncles, cousins, and also you and your FI. It effects Patrick and I in the same way. We love our families so much, and want to spend every minute we can with them. So, we work out compromises; which is the best you can do. For us Thanksgiving is, fortunately, quite easy to navigate. My family tends to have dinner at 1:00pm in the afternoon, and his family eats in the evening. Also, they don't live too far apart; my parents live in Rhode Island, while his are in Connecticut. We usually go down to my parents' and stay there for the mornings, have our dinner and spend some time before heading down to Connecticut for round two Thanksgiving!!! Yum! So much food. So, yes, that one's easy. But what about Christmas? This is one that we have yet to find a completely satisfying compromise for that (Usually, I only see his family on the 24th).
I've come to learn that we need to be focused on what the best thing for us is, and at the same time, we need to be sensitive to our families. It's always better to be honest about what you can and cannot do, and how you genuinely want to spend your time. I find that as our parents come together, it feels more like our family is growing in to one big one!
How do you navigate the holidays? Any tips for a newbie?