I was sitting on the crowded shuttle bus to get to work yesterday when I could not help but overhear a woman speaking on the phone. She clearly had just gotten married and instead of talking about married life, or the honeymoon or even any sort of normal conversation she was ranting on about everything she regretted about her wedding. This was about a fifteen minute bus ride, and the whole time she was getting more and more negative and all I could think of was how I felt sorry for her and how I really hope to learn from her situation.
She was getting more and more upset as the conversation went on and it was apparent to me that the person on the other side of the phone was trying to pacify her, to no avail. Don't get me wrong, I do not eavesdrop, nor am I nosy when it comes to strangers' conversations, but she was increasing in volume as she increased in temper. She spoke of the cake not being what she "paid for," some unruly guests, and ill-attentive bridesmaids. She didn't sound joyful or happy about her day at all, which is so unfortunate.
I realize, not fully yet, how stressful planning a wedding can be. And how there is all this pressure to make it the best day of your and your spouse-to-be's lives. But things can and will go wrong. All the best advice I've heard is to enjoy yourself and be grateful for the love that surrounds you on that day. I am writing this post now as a way to help myself and other brides-to-be know that the wedding day will be imperfect: but it will be perfect for you if you relax and be yourself and be with your new husband and your friends and family. Do what is right for you and your fiance and your family and friends, and you'll be sure to have a wonderful day!
Patrick is really good at reminding me what the best thing to keep in mind is, and that is our marriage. When I think of it, I really don't need the extra stuff, all that's just part of the celebration. When the planning and coordination gets crazy, I hope to remember this advice: